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A Mother’s Heart

Tuesday, June 30th, 2015

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I usually do not get too personal in my blogs but I decided to share about my experience as an adoptive mother. My husband and I welcomed two girls who were biological sisters into our home when they were ages seven and ten. There were indeed many challenges with the adoption process and learning to care for two girls that were emotionally and physically abused, but we accepted the fact that God had given them to us to nurture.

You may have given birth to a child but are you the mother that God directs you to be? As you read Proverbs 31:10-30Proverbs 31:10-30
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10 A worthy woman who can find? For her price is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband trusteth in her, And he shall have no lack of gain. 12 She doeth him good and not evil All the days of her life. 13 She seeketh wool and flax, And worketh willingly with her hands. 14 She is like the merchant-ships; She bringeth her bread from afar. 15 She riseth also while it is yet night, And giveth food to her household, And their task to her maidens. 16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it; With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. 17 She girdeth her loins with strength, And maketh strong her arms. 18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is profitable: Her lamp goeth not out by night. 19 She layeth her hands to the distaff, And her hands hold the spindle. 20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household; For all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22 She maketh for herself carpets of tapestry; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sitteth among the elders of the land. 24 She maketh linen garments and selleth them, And delivereth girdles unto the merchant. 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing; And she laugheth at the time to come. 26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And the law of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her, saying: 29 Many daughters have done worthily, But thou excellest them all. 30 Grace is deceitful, and beauty is vain; But a woman that feareth Jehovah, she shall be praised.

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you will notice there are many attributes that a Godly woman should exemplify.  The passage aptly portrays the perfect wife and mother.

I had a woman contact me recently in frustration that even though she wanted to adopt a child she could not do so because of her past history with the law. She had changed her perspective on life but the past came back to haunt her. She already had biological children but wanted to adopt more. I strongly encouraged her to make it her primary focus to be the best mother she could be to her own children and also to find ways to show love to other children in a motherly way. Thus, she could fulfill the passion in her heart for children.

If you are childless, past child bearing age or do not have any children of your own, there are many ways to reach out to hurting children. There are precious children everywhere just waiting for someone to show them some positive affirmation, attention and love. You might be that bright light in a child’s otherwise drab daily existence.

Let’s show a true mother’s heart to a special child today! Have you considered being a foster parent or adopting a child?

Link to a Facebook page with information on parenting a child . https://www.facebook.com/FosterParentingAdoption

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A Father’s Love

Wednesday, June 12th, 2013

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“The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them”.  (Proverbs 20:7Proverbs 20:7
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7 A righteous man that walketh in his integrity, Blessed are his children after him.

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) What a great example a godly father can exemplify to his children.

My husband received a wonderful card for his birthday from one our daughters with the enclosed poem from an unknown author. The poem illustrates what the love of a father is all about.

A father is respected because he gives his children leadership,

Appreciated because he gives his children care,

Valued because he gives his children time,

Loved because he gives his children the one thing they treasure most – himself.

It is important to give your children all the great material things necessary for their survival. An occasional splurge on a want is also great. However, the most wonderful gift you can give your child is yourself. Be there for them in all situations. Take time to enjoy life with them. Encourage them to become the best they can be.

Leave a legacy of faith with them. Instill in them a trust in God and a belief that He is their Savior. Laugh with them, cry with them and rejoice with them. What you do for them and with them at a young age will impact their lives forever.

Lead a righteous life so your children will be blessed.

happy fathers day

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Mother Is Love

Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

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Proverbs 22:6Proverbs 22:6
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6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And even when he is old he will not depart from it.

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states, “Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

What does it mean to train? The dictionary indicates that to train is an order of occurrence leading to some result or an orderly succession. In other words, training is a positive step in rearing a child.

mother & cookiesA godly mother has an integral part in teaching her child all the important things in life.  First of all, she will teach her child to remember God, the Creator, above all things. She will also give her child unique and special love and hope that each one will become a personality all their own and enter into a life filled with possibilities.

The incomparable love a mother feels for her child is priceless. How is this love exemplified? She gives . .

  • Laughter to a complacent child;
  • Optimism to a dubious child;
  • Loving discipline to each small misdeed and
  • Encouragement to be all they can be.

A mother does a lot of things: teacher, nurse, counselor, chauffeur, cook, and friend; just to name a few.  She expects nothing in return. It is difficult to understand how a mother can keep up the non-stop pace in caring for her child but she does because of her love for her child.

Yes, mother is love!

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Silly Putty®

Wednesday, January 23rd, 2013

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According to the encyclopedia, Silly Putty® is a toy based on silicone polymers which display unusual physical properties. It bounces, but breaks when given a sharp blow and can also flow like a liquid. It contains a viscoelastic liquid silicone, a type of Non-Newtonian fluid, which makes it act as a viscous liquid over a long time period but as an elastic solid over a short time period. It was originally created by accident during research into potential rubber substitutes for use by the United States in World War II.

We all know it is a popular toy for children. Why do the kids like it? Because it can be rolled, smoothed, stretched and patted to fit into tiny crevices and corners, wadded up, reshaped and used over and over again. It will never wear out. If it is dropped, it bounces right back.

How can my Christian life be similar to a piece of putty?

  1. I must be willing to be used over and over again and never tire of doing God’s work.
  2. I must bounce back from failure, from loss or from disappointment so I can set the example for others who are watching my Christian lifestyle.
  3. I must fit into tiny crevices and corners so I can do whatever God wants me to do.
  4. I must be willing to be broken as I place all of my cares and concerns before God.
  5. I must be “silly” enough to do what God asks me to do even if it sounds “crazy” to others.
  6. I must be willing to flow freely as a liquid so I can touch the hearts of those around me who are hurting.

Romans 9:21Romans 9:21
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21 Or hath not the potter a right over the clay, from the same lump to make one part a vessel unto honor, and another unto dishonor?

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states, “Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for special purposes and some for common use?” I want the Master potter (God) to take a lump of clay (me) and create a beautiful vessel to be used for His special purpose.

In other words, I want to be Silly Putty® for Christ.

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My Mother Taught Me

Wednesday, May 2nd, 2012

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One of the favorite passages of scripture used in counseling with parents in how to rear their children is Proverbs 22:6Proverbs 22:6
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6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And even when he is old he will not depart from it.

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NAS, “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

I had a godly mother who taught me many things in life and, most importantly, taught me to love others and to love God. Even as great as my mother was she had those little sayings that sometimes made you stop and think about your behavior.

To celebrate mothers everywhere I am posting these unique quotes. I am sure your mother may have said some of the same things to you. If your mother is still alive, be sure to thank her for all the wonderful things she has done for you or, if she is deceased, let others know how great she was.

The following sayings are from an unknown author:

1.   My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE. “If you’re going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning.”

2.    My mother taught me RELIGION.  “You better pray that this will come out of the carpet.”

3.   My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL. “If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”

4.   My mother taught me LOGIC. “Because I said so, that’s why.”

5.   My mother taught me MORE LOGIC. “If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”

6.   My mother taught me FORESIGHT. “Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”

7.   My mother taught me IRONY. “Keep on crying, and I’ll give you something to cry about.”

8.   My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS. “Shut your mouth and eat your supper.”

9.   My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM. “Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!”

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA. “You’ll sit there until all that SOUP is gone.”

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER. “This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it.”

12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.  “If I told you once, I’ve told you a million times. Don’t exaggerate!”

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE. “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out.”

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOUR MODIFICATION. “Stop acting like your father!”

15. My mother taught me about ENVY. “There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do.”

16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION. “Just wait until we get home.”

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING. “You are going to get it when you get home!”

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE. “If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get stuck that way.”

19. My mother taught me ESP.  “Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you are cold?”

20. My mother taught me HUMOR. “When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.”

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT. “If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”

22. My mother taught me GENETICS.  “You’re just like your father.”

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS. “Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?”

24. My mother taught me WISDOM. “When you get to be my age, you’ll understand.”

25. And my favorite:

My mother taught me about JUSTICE. “One day you’ll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you.”

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

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Wanted: A Mother

Wednesday, April 27th, 2011

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You have probably seen those funny “Help Wanted” ads in various publications, especially around Mother’s Day, stating that a mother is wanted. The article usually indicates that a mother has to serve various functions on a twenty-four/seven, three-hundred-sixty-five days a year basis including being a nurse, lawyer, doctor, teacher, mechanic, counselor, janitor, chef, landlord, peace officer, coach, intercessory prayer warrior, cheerleader, mediator for non-concurring testimony, finance manager and jailer.  A great mother is indeed all of those and more.  Oh, by the way, she must also work for free!

As the mother of three now-grown daughters, I can vouch for the fact that at times motherhood can indeed seem to be daunting especially when you still have young ones at home.  Some women go into this awesome task feeling overwhelmed.

The Bible says that children are precious gifts from God. At times when your child is misbehaving you wonder what kind of a precious gift they are!  Somehow you find it within yourself to continue to love and appreciate their uniqueness.   The Bible attributes much to a mother.  Proverbs 31:28Proverbs 31:28
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28 Her children rise up, and call her blessed; Her husband [also], and he praiseth her, [saying]:

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states, “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also and he praises her.” One of the most important things is to live an exemplary Christian life before them.  As the old adage goes, “what you are speaks so loud, I can’t hear what you say”.

A mother should continue to love, nurture, care for and encourage her children no matter how old they are.  They will always be “in your heart” as long as you live.  This position has great fringe benefits: children and grandchildren to love and assist you in your golden years.

Let’s strive on a daily basis to be the mother God wants us to be.

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Treasure of the Heart

Monday, February 14th, 2011

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Valentine’s Day is a good time to reflect on those things we hold dear to our hearts. I know that in the secular realm the holiday is exclusively geared toward expressing to our loved ones how much we care for them along with all the unique ways to demonstrate that love. All of that is wonderful! In fact, I don’t think I have missed letting my sweetheart of several decades know how special he is to me on Valentine’s Day.

Reflecting on the holiday, I am reminded of those things that I hold dear to my heart:

1.  Possessions – Earthly possessions are important and I appreciate all the prized material items I have accumulated throughout the years but these will all fade away someday. Earthly possessions cannot be taken with me when I leave this earthly home.

2.  Children – “Lo, children are a heritage of the lord and the fruit of the womb is his reward”Psalm 127:3Psalm 127:3
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3 Lo, children are a heritage of Jehovah; [And] the fruit of the womb is [his] reward.

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. I have been blessed with three wonderful daughters and all of my girls are important to me.

3.  Family – Even though I have a rather large extended family, I could not even imagine going through this life without their care and concern for me. We don’t get to see each other frequently because of the distance involved but I know they are still there for me at a moment’s notice.

4.  Friends – As I think of the friends I have in various states, towns and churches, I realize these friends have helped to mold and shape me throughout the years. I have laughed with some in joyous times and cried with others during difficult situations. I could never make it in life without all of my special friends. Proverbs 17:17Proverbs 17:17
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17 A friend loveth at all times; And a brother is born for adversity.

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shares this thought, “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

5.  Jesus – My most precious treasure is my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Oh, what a blessed thought to know he is there with me all the time. “But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Even though I may have little worldly possessions, my true treasure is having Jesus in my heart and as the center of my daily existence.

I will celebrate this Valentine’s Day by expressing to my husband, family and friends how important they are to me. However, God will know He is the true treasure of my heart! For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

What is the treasure of your heart?


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